A 12-step guide to fight pornography addiction

Pornography consumption is not something that can easily be stopped. Once the appetite for it has developed, it actually increases.

In his 1988 study Pornography Effects: Empirical and Clinical Evidence, Victor Cline, then with the University of Utah's Department of Psychology noted that studies show pornography is progressive and addictive for many. It often leads to the user acting out his fantasy - often on children.

For those who have been trained from a young age to lower their gaze and practice Islamic principles of modesty, this may not even be an issue.

But for those who have sadly fallen into pornography addiction, there is a way out.

Alcoholics' Anonymous is an organization that has fought the battle against alcohol addiction since 1935. Its "Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous" provides a clear, general guide on how to get out of the addiction of alcohol, which has killed people, ruined families and led to health problems.

Sound Vision has adapted the 12 steps from this guide to offer some guidance on how those addicted to pornography can get out of it.

Step One-Admit that you can't give up

Admit that you are unable to get a grip on your consumption of pornography. It is uncontrollable. Every time you turn on the internet, go to the video store, turn on the television, you cannot say NO to yourself. You cannot NOT surf porn sites, or stop watching. You are no longer in control of your life.

Step Two-Admit only God can get you out of this

You know, after trying using so many different ways to control your addiction and subsequently failing, that only Allah can help you out of this. You may have known it before, but you are convinced of it now without a shadow of a doubt.

Step Three-Your life and death are all in Allah's control

You have decided to put your complete trust in Allah, who is in control of all aspects of your life and your death. You have chosen to seek His Help first and foremost.

Step Four-You have completed a self-analysis

You have done an honest, sincere, but often painful self-evaluation of your good points and bad points, analyzed your addiction, and tried to understand how you reached this point.

Step Five-Made a specific repentance to Allah

You have admitted to Allah, to yourself, and to another trusted Muslim (if possible) exactly where you went wrong. You did not make a general request for repentance. You specifically listed your mistakes, and in particular, your addiction to pornography.

Step Six-You were open and ready to receive Allah's help to change

You know that your Tawbah (repentence to God) and being sincere, must be followed by action. You are ready to do what is necessary to change, no matter how difficult or painful. Even if it means not even watching television for the news or never surfing the internet alone.

Step Seven- You have asked for the removal of faults

You have asked Allah, with sincerity, humility and regret, to help you never repeat this action (i.e. looking at pornography) again and to help you avoid repeating sins committed in the past again.

Step Eight-You have decided to seek others' forgiveness

You have made a list of everyone you had hurt through your addiction, whether it was your spouse, children or parents, and made the intention to approach them seeking forgiveness. You must not, however, disclose your addiction since whatever Allah has kept hidden must remain hidden. You just seek forgiveness for any possible act of harm and hurt. Allah does not like a sin to be advertised.

Step Nine-Seek forgiveness of God

Seek the forgiveness and protection of Allah. Do sadaqah (charity) and fast as kaffarah if possible.

Step Ten-You have completed nightly self-evaluations

You continually, every night, have done an honest self-evaluation of your behavior, and were ready to admit your mistakes and thank Allah for the good you did that day.

Step Eleven-You have prayed for greater God-consciousness

You prayed and continue to pray five times a day, seeking closeness to Allah, and a consciousness of Him (Taqwa) wherever you are. You increase your reliance on Him to help you with this addiction to pornography and with all other matters in your life.

Step Twelve-You preached and practiced

You have not just "moved on" after Allah blessed you to get out of this addiction. You helped others you knew with this problem with regular contact and  sincere advice. By the grace of Allah, helping others helped you maintain control over your addiction and you helped another person get out of this destruction and misery.

Comments

I also have the same issue since my childhood,i don't even know,how this evil deed came in my life ,now I'm 24, I'm a practicing muslim,i do islamic preaching,and personally I've seen it's bad effects on my personal life,i become Ill spiritually and physically,but still I can't control,plz pray for me alot, I'm going in depression everytime I think of it,I can't even concentrate on my studies and feeling empty from inside..may Allah forgive me and all of us and make us a pious muslim.aameen

Location

India

Im ashamed of myself. I did stopped for 6 months. But it happened again and i have no way to control it. Im ashamed of how porn turn me to be unproductive hard to focus and dirty minded person. The only way out i know ofcourse is to maintain good relationship with Allah try my best to not listen to music or watching movies. Because these things that make us astray from remembering Allah. Ya Allah give me strenghth.

M also adicted to it m trying ma best to leave it bt it again happens

Location

India

I'm currently a student at university, abroad. I'm in a European country where there aren't many practicing Muslims. Like many others, i stop for a long while then relapse, and when i do relapse, i don't have the face to pray either, and it takes me really long until I'm at an okay place again. Having left home and being abroad has really caused a huge setback and i don't know what to do.

Location

UK

All those who face this problem and odnt know how to overcome it i have a lil solution to it....recite kalima taiba as many times as u can then do astaghfaar everyday...be in wuzu all the time...it really helps....recite quran....everyday.....it helps alot....even reading a page will help...u will feel the contentment...being in wuzu also helps....and doig astaghfaar and reciting kalima tayiba is very useful too.....

Location

pakistan

You need to learn that Allah is the one that can help you. Repent to hin and inshallah everything will be ok

Location

Bradford

There's a way of getting out from pornography insya'allah:
Remember Allah is watching us and angel raqib & atid are always recording what we do. Try to touch a lighted up candle and keep in mind that hellfire is way hotter. Everytime we are tempted to watch porn, go take wudzu and read the meaning of the Qur'an instead. Come to islamic learning sessions in the mosque even if you just sit and listen. Go to the mosque for 5x shalat. Sunnah fasting monday & thursday. Pray dhuha & tahajud. Wow so much task to be done! Yes, to make sure we have no spare time at all which can lead us to doing foolishness.

Location

Indonesia

Assalamu'alaykum.
I can't believe, I'm at it again. I've stopped it for several months. I didn't even want to think about it. It was soo easy to avoid it. But then training was over and university was back. Most of my days are now spent at home. I usually wake up at noon. lose some time on YouTube until 4pm, i go to my classes and come back home at six and after Esha Swalaat, i watch some movies. Then about midnight, i decide to go to sleep. I take my phone and start looking at random pics on social medias, i start looking for Girls pictures until they are haraam enough to make me get the courage to open the incognito tab and start searching for such stupidity. And each time i look for something more stupid than the previous ones . I hate to admit it but i reject guidance from Allah at those particular moments plenty of times. How dare i be like that. In the weekend i even go to help some brothers to give Quran and islamic courses to kids in my locality. If those kids only knew how filthy i am. Ya Rabb, I'm soo ashamed of myself.

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