The Quran and Hadith on mothers

The Quran

1. "We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth" (46:15).

2. "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood' "(17:23-24).

3. "We have enjoined on man and woman kindness to parents; but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not'" (29:8).

4. "We have enjoined on man and woman (to be good) to his/her parents; show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is (thy final) Goal. If they (parents) strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love)" (31:14-15).

The Hadith

1. The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai).

2. A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).

3. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).

4. Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of Allah said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one's parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim).

5. It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Asma informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim).

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Comments

Mother is a mother. Don't advise people to stay away from a mother. You are creating gunah for yourself since you don't know what the real situation might be. There's always 2 sides to a story. Stop judging and advising when you are not present and seen with your own eyes.

Sister, do not worry. Allah the Almighty and Wise knows your condition, for it was He who set this test for you. I have been through a similar test and so too did the earliest Muslims. Do not attempt to speak about Islam to your parents until they calm down. Be utterly nice to them because you want to please Allah. If they disrespect Allah swt, it will be enough to know that you hate what they say but not them, for they are your parents. If they oppress you, then it will be ok to distance yourself with the intention of allowing them time to come to terms with your decision inshaaAllah. As a revert, your heart is pure and you are very open to guidance from Allah swt. You simply have to ask for guidance every time you pay and inshaaAllah you will be guided to the best solution. May Allah swt make it easy and give you and your family hidayat

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Salaam Sophie,

Even if your parents are not easy to get along with, you must respect them according to the Quran. Prophet Abraham (pbuh) had to deal with the same thing with his pagan, idol-worshipping father.

It is not required that you be joined at your parents' hip. You can live your life and still check in on them to be sure they are all right and doing well.

Unfortunately, some parents do things to intentionally hurt or anger their children. Do not feed into this! Your parents can be making anti-Islamic statement simply out of a lack of knowledge of Islam or to hurt your feelings.

Either way, Keep reading your Qur'an and understanding its verses, as well, as the Authentic Hadith. You will start to develop more patience and what your relatives say against Islam will not cause you to fly into a rage.

Listen to the hadith of the prophet (S.A.W.) that was reported by Imams Ahmad and (Muslim in similar words.) when a man came to him and said, O messenger of Allah, I have relatives with whom I keep good relations, but they cut off relations with me, I forgive them, but they oppress me, I do good to them, but they treat me badly, should I get even with them (treat them as bad as they treat me)? The prophet replied: "No, If you do so all the relations will be cut off this way. On the contrary, be generous and keep in touch with them, you will always have support from Allah as long as you stay this way." (Source: Islam1.org)

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USA

Assalam Alaikum. Plz post about Muslim women and their rights. As a mother , wife, sister, daughter. Thanks.

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Illinois

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