The Quran
1. "We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth" (46:15).
2. "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood' "(17:23-24).
3. "We have enjoined on man and woman kindness to parents; but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not'" (29:8).
4. "We have enjoined on man and woman (to be good) to his/her parents; show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is (thy final) Goal. If they (parents) strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love)" (31:14-15).
The Hadith
1. The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai).
2. A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?' The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).
3. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).
4. Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of Allah said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one's parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim).
5. It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Asma informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim).
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Am sorry to have to say this
Am sorry to have to say this but my mom is making my life more difficult than it already is and she doesn’t understand it. She verbally abused me and it has taken a toll on my mental health. I tried talking to her about it but she just continues. She says all sort of comments behind my back to my younger sisters. To make situation worst I really have no one to talk to and it’s also frustrating. Am really tired of all of this I can’t take it anymore. I don’t even know what to do cause I seriously need help
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The first thing is to chat to a trustworthy and understanding person. Then you can lighten your burden . Someone or yourself needs to explain to your mom that this hurtful talking is a major sin . Try a few times . Then best to avoid the Situations afterwards.
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Abuse
My mother commits major sins in Islam. She has also abused myself and my siblings verbally, mentally and physically. I've tried to speak to her. I've tried to get her the help she needs but she refuses to take the help. I am angry and I am hurt. Out of a rage of anger one day because of her in obedience to Allah, I was disrespectful and I soon after seeked her forgiveness. But to this day I don't want to see her or speak to her until she turns her life around. Am I wrong? Will I be punished?
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Would I be punished?
Dear if you read the hadees then even if your mom is pagan or kafir (let alone a sinner) you can minimize your interactions but not cut her off. Secondly its obligatory to take care of her if she is dependent on you.
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Yes. Don't be hard or rudeto
Yes. Don't be hard or rudeto your parent ,no matter what
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Sins
Don’t ever expose someone sins and don’t ever tell anyone someone is doing a sin
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what is a mother
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I don’t like my mom anymore
I love my mom a lot but recently I found she has been back biting about me to others. She even says she feels like committing suicide because of me. I argue with her for food as she lost 10 kg saying I'll die soon if I do like this. This is only point I argue as I don't like wasting food. But she is telling everyone it is bcos of me her health is spoiled. I'm a single mother staying with her and working . I take good care of her but she hates me saying I have a son and she doesn't have. I found she is jealous of me and tells bad about me to neighbors. She tells others that I Treat her badly and make her starve. There are many examples which are disturbing but still I try to ignore as I'm a working lady and I don't have time for gossip or time to argue for small things. But in the end when I came to know about her true nature towards me I was heartbroken and no longer like her. I'm planning to move out of house . Please advise.
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