Doing Haram and seeking forgiveness in Islam

Doing Haram and seeking forgiveness in Islam

Doing Haram, seeking forgiveness

"Say: O Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful" (Quran 39:53)

Whether it's watching porn, lying, backbiting or other vices, our sins accumulate daily.

We may try to hold our tongues, lower our gaze, not disrespect our parents or avoid a myriad of sins God has ordered us to avoid, but as humans we are weak, and we can and do make mistakes.

But while God is just and holds us responsible for our actions, the doors to His forgiveness are always open; doing Haram and seeking forgiveness in Islam is always there. No matter how awful our sin, Allah is always ready to hear and accept our repentance, provided it is sincere and results in change for the better, so never stop making dua for forgiveness.

In the Quran, God repeatedly reminds us that He is the Forgiving and the Merciful.

Read Quranic verses from sura Al-Furqan (Quran 25: 63-73) for a better understanding of these issue. Here is a translation of some Quranic verses and its commentary (Quran 25: 68- 70):

"Who invoke no other deity along with Allah, nor take any life which Allah has forbidden save justly; who do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse and whoso does that shall meet its penalty;

His torment shall be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide in it in ignominy

Unless he repents and reaffirm his believes and does righteous works.(1) For such, Allah will change their evil deeds to good deeds.(2) Allah is Ever Forgiving, Most Compassionate."

(1).  This is good news for those whose life has been stained with various kinds of sin in the past but who later repent and firmly decide to amend their behavior.  The present verse amounts to a proclamation of general amnesty, which for millions of sinners provided a ray of hope and prompted them to reform themselves.

The extent to which this provision of repentance saved the Arabs who were otherwise given to many a vice is evident from a number of incidents during the life of the Prophet (Peace be upon him).  Let us consider the following example, narrated by Tabari on the authority of Abu Hurayrah who said: "One night when I returned from the Prophet's Mosque after offering Isha Prayers, I saw a woman standing outside my door. I said 'Peace be on you' and went into my room, closed the door, and began to offer nafl (supererogatory) Prayers.  After some time, she knocked at the door. I opened the door and asked her what she wanted.  'I have come to ask you a question. I committed adultery and became pregnant.  Then a baby was born and I killed him. Now I have come to ask you if there is any chance that my sin be forgiven?'  I said: 'Absolutely not'.  At this she went away grief-stricken, exclaiming: 'Alas, this piece of beauty was created for the Hell-fire.'

"The next day, after the Fajr prayers, I narrated the whole incident to the Prophet (peace be on him).  He said: 'How wrong an answer you gave, O Abu Hurayrah!  Have you not read those verses in the Quran: "Those who invoke no other deity along with Allah nor take the life which Allah has forbidden – save justly; who do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse – and whoso does that shall meet its penalty, his torment shall be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection and he shall abide in it in ignominy – unless he who repents and believes and does righteous works.  For such Allah will change their evil deeds to good deeds.  Allah is Ever Forgiving, Most Compassionate.  Whosoever repents and does good, he returns to Allah in the manner he should" (Al-Furqan 25:68-70).  Upon hearing this answer from the Prophet (Peace be on him), I went out and searched for the woman.  I met her after Isha Prayers and told her what the Prophet (peace be on him) had said.  She prostrated herself and said, 'Thanks be to God, Who has opened the door of forgiveness for me.' Then she repented and freed a female slave and also the son of that slave." (See Tabari, 'Tafsir', comments on Surah al-Furqan 25:68-70 Ed.)

(2).  Doing Haram and seeking forgiveness in Islam, this has two meanings.  One, that when a person repents and gives up his evil actions and begins to perform vitreous deed, in this new phase of life, of Faith and righteous conduct, his good deeds will replace the evil deeds of his past. Second, that as a result of his repentance, not only are the evil deeds which he committed during this period of disbelief and sinful living forgiven, but each person will be awarded for having given up a life of disbelief and transgression and for replacing it with obedience and Faith.  Moreover, for as many times as such people feel ashamed of their past evil deeds, they will be rewarded that same number of times for having asked for forgiveness from God.  Feeling ashamed of one's sins and asking for forgiveness is, in itself, a good deed.  In this manner, all of one's evil deeds will eventually be replaced by good deeds and one will not only be saved from punishment, but will also be amply rewarded.

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My husband and revert muslim. Unfortunately my husband is incarcerated. Is it haram if I masturbate? My husband not here and I'm not committing adultery. I need to know if I need to pray for forgiveness or is it okay due to the circumstance 



Sister, this is an old/new question people always ask if it's ok to do.

the official answer I heard so many times is,  fornication and cheating your husband with another man is haram.  satisfying your sexual needs with toys and via other means is not haram. and consequently it is permissible. since there is a need for it and it will save you from falling in the haram.

I found these online resources for you:

may Allah grant you patience and a strong iyman.



I masturbated being a female i lost my virginity which i didn't know what was it at that time but i hold myself accountable for all the actions i have committed i know it's haram. How can i ask for Allah's forgiveness when i can't forgive my self. 



Assalam u aleikum

I had a relationship with a girl and she offers herself to me. I avoided her but she insisted me again and again and offered me sex.And hence we had sex one time.

What should I do.?  I repented to Allah.

Is there any need to apologize the girl.?

Kindly explain. I am very depressed. 




Hi I'm 13 years old and I never knew what porn is and what its about until one time I searched Facebook for a friend and I say different people(lesbians,spam accounts on sex,etc) I was so confused but i had the urge to keep scrolling though it,I just couldn't stop until I clicked one of the accounts,saw a link clicked on it and it took me to mai khalifa's porn videos I don't know why but I kept on downloading and watching her I tried to stop but everytime I stop my mind wouod go crazy and I'd begin to masturbate,today I watched it uncomfortably and I search the things about porn on someone's Islamic religion I was so shocked and didnt know what to do and time I'm in the shower and I looked at my private part it would grow longer and longer I tried pushing it back in but it kept growing,I know Its haram but my body can't control it self pls I need he'll on what to do. I'm just 13 and social media has already ruined my life, my sister is suspecting on me and i don't know how to tell herwithout her overacting and reeling my parents,pls I need help on how to stop my addiction. Pls help I don't want to go to hell,I have ruined my life at just 13. My aspirations are gone and I know it. The future that I dream of is fading away in my mind.



My sister don't worry firstly a good thing  is that you except you do a mistake now it's time to avoid it listen do a simple thing think always that allah is watching you all time so inshallah it may be help you and most important pray namaz and do astagfar tauba pray tahajjud and seek forgiveness 👍🏻



hi dude whoever u are. u have to start praying and asking Allah’s forgiveness. and also [Recite Astaghfirullah constantly. Say it 3 times after every salat and minimum of 100 times a day. It means, "I seek forgiveness from Allah". Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Whoever says, 'Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi,' 100 times a day, will be forgiven all his sins even if they were as much as the foam of the sea.] ur welcome🙏




Listen the porn is not your fault, you had no idea that you can have these feelings.  It is simple all you need to do is make istighfar and pray and make dua'. force yourself to not go on the internet.  If you can talk to your father or even better if you can go to the mosque and talk to the sheikh he can guide you.  do not say you ruined your life, because Allah loves the one who makes mistakes yet turns back to him in repentence.  many boys have this problem and they seek help from a good mentor and inshallah will stop.  you are a normal human being and human beings make mistakes and sin, even Adam (AS) made sin and ate from the apple tree.  just say istighfar and make dua and pray Allah will guide you inshallah. Just try hard to get yourself involved in different activities, maybe go and volunteer in the masjid or whatever just stay busy, maybe go memorize Quran or join an organization where it will keep you busy.  May Allah make it easy on you-dont give up hope on Allahs mercy. :)



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Salam Alaykum.

I'm a 26 year old pakistani Male looking for marriage. I am based in London. I want to so things halal and do things the right way In shaa Allah.




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