If you're not thankful to people you're not thankful to God

Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said, "He who does not thank people, does not thank Allah" (Ahmad, Tirmidhi).

What’s interesting is that he did not mention limit thankfulness to relatives, only Muslims or believers. He used the Quranic term “Naas” which means all human beings. So the attitude of thankfulness and gratefulness to each and all, Muslim or non-Muslim, neighbor or non-neighbor, is the way to be thankful to God.

This reflects a winning attitude toward life. Life would be miserable if we only counted the people who do bad things. We can keep worrying about them or start counting the jewels of humanity that are all around us and start recognizing each good thing they have to offer. Anytime anyone does any favor, a little courtesy and you say thank you in a way that your whole face is smiling, not just your visible teeth and your eyes are in their eyes, you offer your best self.

There is thank you and then there is the real thank you. Sometimes, thank yous come out without us even thinking about them. We receive many of those all day long and there is nothing wrong with that. It’s common courtesy and somewhere in your subconscious, you mean it as well, giving and receiving it casually.

In this world, many of us watch sports on television more than we play, laugh at comedy on the internet instead of being humorous and joyful with each other. Perhaps this is why, very often, our expressions of thankfulness often reflect this distance we have from others, a lack of direct contact where we barely look at the person we are being grateful for as we mutter “thanks”.

I don’t hate many things in life. I actually don’t remember anyone I hate. Hate to me is not casual. It’s a very strong word. But I feel very bad when I say thank you and the person on the other side says “uh huh”. I really feel like telling this person, “Look at me! I really mean it!”. But I don’t. So if you are on the receiving end of thank you, you should really respond in a better way. Allah has guided us in the Quran to do better. When you greet someone, respond with something better (Quran 4:86). And that is what most humans do. But it may be a good idea to remember that when you, in a busy day, get a thank you, take a half second to say “you are most welcome!” in the best possible manner with the presence of mind and heart.

In the Quran, Allah reminds us that, "if ye are grateful, I will add more (favors) unto you…” (14:7). Interestingly, this applies to human beings as well. When we are grateful to others, they are more than willing to help us and do good for us. Think of that nice boss or co-worker who helped you move up in your career or that professor or teacher who went out of their way to help you with a difficult class. They helped you over an extended period of time and it’s likely you expressed your profuse thanks for their help.

Let’s stop practicing “auto pilot thanksgiving” and start expressing heartfelt thanks, to God and His Creation.

It is one small way we can not only reconnect with people beyond tweets and texts, but it will also deepen our relationship with Allah.

Comments

But i still didn't understand why we should be thankful to god. Can you tell me some misconceptions about thankful in Islam. But still this was really good information

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Jubail

Aslamo alaikum to a great topic I agre with all my heart that parents and teachers and Imams be kind and respectful their children never ever talk to them in a bad tone no matter how busy you are and by under some pressure it comes out from your action always appoligize to your child they will grow up to be good human beings and will have good impact the society. I can help them to be in an enviornment where they will learn a lot and be in a very safe positive enviornment and also learn how to make little money legally but they have to be 18years or older girls or boys doesnt matter even parents can go their if they want to they will be shocked once they stepped into that gatherings we definetly need to help new generation for their better future and prosperity hope the best to all of you.

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new jersy

Excellent article, thank you from the bottom of my heart for reminding us of this!

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Cleveland

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