Doing Haram, seeking forgiveness

Doing Haram, seeking forgiveness

"Say: O Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful" (Quran 39:53)

Whether it's watching pornography, lying, backbiting or other vices, our sins accumulate daily.

We may try to hold our tongues, lower our gaze, not disrespect our parents or avoid a myriad of sins God has ordered us to avoid, but as humans we are weak, and we can and do make mistakes.

But while God is just and holds us responsible for our actions, the doors to His forgiveness are always open. No matter how awful our sin, Allah is always ready to hear and accept our repentance, provided it is sincere and results in change for the better.

In the Quran, God repeatedly reminds us that He is the Forgiving and the Merciful.

Read Quranic verses from sura Al-Furqan (Quran 25: 63-73) for a better understanding of these issue. Here is a translation of some Quranic verses and its commentary (Quran 25: 68- 70):

"Who invoke no other deity along with Allah, nor take any life which Allah has forbidden save justly; who do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse and whoso does that shall meet its penalty;

His torment shall be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide in it in ignominy

Unless he repents and reaffirm his believes and does righteous works.(1) For such, Allah will change their evil deeds to good deeds.(2) Allah is Ever Forgiving, Most Compassionate."

(1).  This is good news for those whose life has been stained with various kinds of sin in the past but who later repent and firmly decide to amend their behavior.  The present verse amounts to a proclamation of general amnesty, which for millions of sinners provided a ray of hope and prompted them to reform themselves.

The extent to which this provision of repentance saved the Arabs who were otherwise given to many a vice is evident from a number of incidents during the life of the Prophet (Peace be upon him).  Let us consider the following example, narrated by Tabari on the authority of Abu Hurayrah who said: "One night when I returned from the Prophet's Mosque after offering Isha Prayers, I saw a woman standing outside my door. I said 'Peace be on you' and went into my room, closed the door, and began to offer nafl (supererogatory) Prayers.  After some time, she knocked at the door. I opened the door and asked her what she wanted.  'I have come to ask you a question. I committed adultery and became pregnant.  Then a baby was born and I killed him. Now I have come to ask you if there is any chance that my sin be forgiven?'  I said: 'Absolutely not'.  At this she went away grief-stricken, exclaiming: 'Alas, this piece of beauty was created for the Hell-fire.'

"The next day, after the Fajr prayers, I narrated the whole incident to the Prophet (peace be on him).  He said: 'How wrong an answer you gave, O Abu Hurayrah!  Have you not read those verses in the Quran: "Those who invoke no other deity along with Allah nor take the life which Allah has forbidden – save justly; who do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse – and whoso does that shall meet its penalty, his torment shall be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection and he shall abide in it in ignominy – unless he who repents and believes and does righteous works.  For such Allah will change their evil deeds to good deeds.  Allah is Ever Forgiving, Most Compassionate.  Whosoever repents and does good, he returns to Allah in the manner he should" (Al-Furqan 25:68-70).  Upon hearing this answer from the Prophet (Peace be on him), I went out and searched for the woman.  I met her after Isha Prayers and told her what the Prophet (peace be on him) had said.  She prostrated herself and said, 'Thanks be to God, Who has opened the door of forgiveness for me.' Then she repented and freed a female slave and also the son of that slave." (See Tabari, 'Tafsir', comments on Surah al-Furqan 25:68-70 Ed.)

(2).  This has two meanings.  One, that when a person repents and gives up his evil actions and begins to perform vitreous deed, in this new phase of life, of Faith and righteous conduct, his good deeds will replace the evil deeds of his past. Second, that as a result of his repentance, not only are the evil deeds which he committed during this period of disbelief and sinful living forgiven, but each person will be awarded for having given up a life of disbelief and transgression and for replacing it with obedience and Faith.  Moreover, for as many times as such people feel ashamed of their past evil deeds, they will be rewarded that same number of times for having asked for forgiveness from God.  Feeling ashamed of one's sins and asking for forgiveness is, in itself, a good deed.  In this manner, all of one's evil deeds will eventually be replaced by good deeds and one will not only be saved from punishment, but will also be amply rewarded.

Commentary from Towards Understanding the Quran with some abbreviation

Comments

You can hang out with non-Muslim friends, but you must wear long sleeve shirt and long jean/trouser. If you would like to be a good Muslim person and would like to ask Allah to forgive your sins. You must follow the rules: (or click this link and read it carefully http://www.wikihow.com/Ask-Allah-for-Forgiveness)
1) Understand your mistake.
2) Do not ask for forgiveness under the pressure of others
3) Make up your mind to never repeat the mistake.
4) Apply the three factors that determine the effectiveness of your 'Tawbah'.
5) Recognize if someone else was also affected by your sins or mistakes.
6) Know that Allah is the most merciful of all and is naturally disposed to forgive.
7) Put your trust in the power of 'Tawbah'.
8) Perform Salah.
9) Ask Allah for forgiveness after the salat (prayers).
10) Ask Allah for forgiveness day and night.
11) Use Allah's different names that attribute his kindness and forgiveness.
12) Fast during the month of Ramadan.
13) Remember that good deeds can help in erasing bad deeds
14) Do charity (Zakat).
15) Perform Hajj.
16) Practice self-control to avoid such situations in future.
17) Do not miss out on doing those 'small little things' that could supplement you in seeking forgiveness.
18) Rely on the duas mentioned to seek forgiveness
19) Never give up to ask Allah to forgive your sins.
Remember Allah always forgive everyone only those who are not giving up to ask Allah for forgiveness. You should talk yourself in your heart with Allah, eg; "Dear Allah, I ask you to forgive my sins. I am really sorry for hurting you and making you sad. I will never ever do that and I promised you. Ya Allah, you are always there for me when I am sad and happy which I am really appreciated for you. I really love you so much more than you think or more than the universe. Ya Allah, you are my Lord, you are my king and you are my everything and I am your servants."
Anyway, it's really your choice do you want to give up on Allah or would you like to continue with it? I am not forcing you but imagine an angel is on your left side and a devil is on your right side. So which path are you going to choose? If you choose an angel and you should listen to his/her right path which Allah will be happy. If you choose the wrong path, then a devil would be happy and you will be welcome in Hell. Doesn't matter if you did sins BUT remember do not give up! Pray 5 times in a day but make sure do not pray late! Take fasting every year in a month and read Quran sometimes if you have time. But if you are busy such as you are looking after your babysitter or busy in the kitchen or have work. This is fine because of course Allah can see you. If you are a rich person, then save up money and send them to poor people. Because did you know the poor people will pray for you. They will be appreciated by you for being helping them.
Thank you and goodluck.

WalaikumAsalam sister
i can totally understand your problem sis. U dont have to worry. Allah has made ways for all. And when you have decided once to be on the right path you definitely can be. You will face distractions ofc bc you have been among nonmuslims for so long. You had a different lifestyle earlier but remeber when there is a will there is a way. It will take tine but you dont have to loose hope. I am a muslim since the day i was born and i live in a muslim society deslite that i have commited so much sins. Remember no one is perfect. But i always seeked Allahs forgiveness. I know you want to feel things you need to feel that spirit. Itvwould happen trust me. It will tkae time but you have to stay strong in your deen you have totrust him you have to believe and eventually you will feel it. Try these things:
- download duas in your phone of forgiveness, take ss and read them whenever you are free.
- follow the islmaic pages and muslim vloggers/bloggers.
-follow hijabees.
- do hijaab in cas eif you want to.
- donot do everything at once do it step by step. Donot ever burdensome yourself.
-recite dua when you wake up and sleep.
-do good to people and expect only from god.
- start believing in naseeb.
-invocation is important
Islam is a really good and peaceful religion.you will surely be successful in your mission. My best wishes are with you. And remember pray five times a day recite quran daily with all your heart. Try to lessen your sins. May Allah guide you. i hope it was helpful. Stay blessed ♡

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Pakistan

Assalamualaikum,

Dear Zoha Amir,

Alhamdulillah, Allah have touch and soften your heart to go back to His path.. Keep praying to Him and don't ever lost your hope to become a better Muslim.. Allah want to see your efforts.. In shaa Allah He'll bring you to His path sooner or later eventually.. Do the good deeds.. Try to prevent yourself from doing somethings harom.. This effort will counted.. Then you will feel the connections.. In shaa Allah.. Everytime you wake up talk to yourself "I want to be a better person today.." and recite Fatihah anytime you free.. try it.. you'll find your inner peace..

I've been there and done that..

Location

Malaysia

Zoha,i can understand ur situation ..my suggestion is 1st of All u listen the meaning of the holy Quran ..then additionally start praying from now onwards.prayer can change u completely.additionally u can listen to lecture of scholar like nauman Ali ,mufti menk...inshallah u will be in right track and Allah knows the best .

Location

India

Yes sister you do tawbah in which repent article written above you should avoid non Muslims friends if not avoid but keep distance and try to pray and read QURAN with translation .Try to stay on home and spent time with family and go to mosque and meet with practicing islamic sisters and ask questions about islam and watch islamic programmes on TV and after pray stay on mat and try to talk with ALLAH ASO remind me in prays thanks best of luck

Yes sister you do tawbah in which repent article written above you should avoid non Muslims friends if not avoid but keep distance and try to pray and read QURAN with translation .Try to stay on home and spent time with family and go to mosque and meet with practicing islamic sisters and ask questions about islam and watch islamic programmes on TV and after pray stay on mat and try to talk with ALLAH ASO remind me in prays thanks best of luck

Assalam alaikum
Zoha if a robber wants to commit robbery he will not go to a poor mans house . The robber will like to steal do is robbery in a rich mans house because he knows there is alot more there . Shaitaan (devil) he works the same way he never tries to corrupt a person that has no imaan . He always makes a person with imaan (belife in ALLAH ) do bad stuffs . This is a hadith i read. As far as you thinking about if you have hope . I can guarentee that you do . Remember if we commit sins for many years Allah will test us but during those test you have to be firm feet meaning hold on to the rope of ALLAH . And trust me ALLAH is forgiving .I to grow up in western culture and did everything that made me fit in from drinking to clubs to everything that are big sins but i repent everyday and hold to the rope of ALLAH now. In the beggening i thought i was doomed ALLAH will never forgive me but our ALLAH is the most forgiving and mercyfull just put your trust in ALLAH and his Prophet (pbuh) and remember ALLAH Will test you dont fail the test he wants to c are u really ashamed or is this just a phase even if you fail the test repent again he will forgive ALLAH loves a person who repents . If you do 1000 good things and do 1 bad thing people in the world will forget the good and remember that 1 bad thing u did. But ALLAH says if you do 1000 bad things but do only 1 good i will forgive the bad . The rest is upto Allah the all forgiving the most mercyfull.

Location

New york

I recently started watching a show which was not appropriate for my age at all. It included sexual content and bad language and other horrible sins. I've also been reading stories that include of things like that. I sadly enjoyed it because the show kept me entertained and it was a funny show (I enjoyed it because of the plot and story-line and how well it was written).
But today my mom caught me doing these sins and this time i don't think she will forgive me. I've done these acts before and seems i could not stop but now that my mom seems so upset and angry about this I'm turning to Allah for some forgiveness from him and some help to get me out of this situation. But i don't Allah will want to help me after what i did. I know i did something wrong and i want to stop. I also need to prove to my mom im not a bad person. I hate to see her so upset with me. I know i should do something but i don't know where to begin. Please help me I'm 14 and too young to make mistakes this bad. I am a terrible human. Please help me to become a better person. I don't want to hurt her again...

Location

U.A.E

If u wanted to see miracle then listen to the meaning of Quran and perform Namaz by your heart and pray to God that to forgive ur sins .u will definitely get a rope towards a good way from God .

Location

India

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