How to treat your wife in Islam ? Tips for a better Muslim husband and Muslim wife relationship

How to treat your wife in Islam ? Tips for a better Muslim husband and Muslim wife relationship

Tips for a better husband and wife relationship

How to treat your wife in islam quotes?  Although many Muslim Husband and Wife relationships may right now be in failing and on a fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many ways to put their marriage back on the right track if they are sincere in their desire to reconcile thier husband wife relationship. The following principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in trouble or by Muslims who would like to avoid trouble in their marriage.

Examples of Negative Muslim Husband Wife Relationship

Many Muslim husbands and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. The husband feels that he is the boss, and whatever he says goes. The wife feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and families enjoy. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in the family.

Marriage In The Eyes of Allah

It is very sad that this husband wife relationship which Allah has established for the good has been made a source of contention, deception, trickery, tyranny, humiliation, and abuse. This is not the way marriage is supposed to be.

Allah described marriage very differently in the Holy Quran: '. . . He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . " (Holy Quran 30:21, Yusuf Ali Translation).

1. Do not be a Tyrant

Regardless of whether or not Islam has made the husband the head of the household, Muslims are not supposed to be dictators and tyrants. We are taught to treat our wives well. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives" (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi). In the khutba hajjatul wida, Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) clearly stated how men should treat their wives.

2. Be Partners in the Decision Making Process

Follow the principle of 'Shura," and make decisions as a family. There will be much more harmony in the family when decisions are not imposed and everyone feels that they had some part in making them.

3. Never be Abusive

Never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never mistreated his wives. He is reported to have said: 'How could they beat their women in daytime as slaves and then sleep with them in the night?"

4. Be Careful of Your Words

Be very careful what you say when you are upset. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. If you are angry, wait until you calm down before continuing the conversation.

5. Show Affection

Show affection for your mate. Be kind, gentle, and loving.

5. Be Your Spouse's Friend

Show interest in your mate's life. Too often, we live in the same house but know nothing about each other's lives. It would be great if the husband and wife could work together for the same cause or on the same project. They could perhaps establish a husband/wife prison ministry, take care of orphans in their home, or lead an Islamic weekend class to better their husband wife relationship.

6. Show Appreciation

Show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Never make your husband feel that he is not doing good enough for the family or that you are not satisfied with his work or his efforts, unless, of course, he is truly lazy and not even trying to provide for the family. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: 'On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband." (where is this hadith found) Show your wife that you appreciate her. If she takes care of the house and the children, don't take it for granted. It is hard work, and no one likes to feel unappreciated.

7. Work Together in the House

The Prophet is known to have helped his wives in the house. And if the Prophet (SAWS) was not above doing housework, modern Muslim husbands shouldn't feel that they are.

8. Communication is Important

Communication, Communication, Communication! This is the big word in counseling. And it should be. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until an explosion occurs.

9. Forget Past Problems

Don't bring up past problems once they have been solved.

10. Live Simply

Don't be jealous of those who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. The 'rizq" is from Allah (SWT). In order to develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Thank Allah (SWT) for the many blessings in your life.

11. Give Your Spouse Time Alone

If your mate doesn't want to be with you all the time, it doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you. People need to be alone for various reasons. Sometimes they want to read, to think about their problems, or just to relax. Don't make them feel that they are committing a sin.

12. Admit Your Mistakes

When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never go to sleep angry with each other.

13. Physical Relationship is Important

Be available to your mate sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by selfishness. The Prophet was reported to have said: 'It is not appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must send a message of love beforehand."

14. Have Meals Together

Try to eat together as a family when possible. Show the cook and the dishwasher, whether it is the husband or the wife, appreciation for his or her efforts. The Prophet did not complain about food that was put before him.

15. Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics

Never discuss with others things about your marriage that your spouse wouldn't like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate's physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster of husband wife relationship. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse.

Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times --- when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them.

Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. If you follow this rule, your marriage will have a much greater chance for success. If you discard this rule, failure is just around the corner. This is how to treat your wife in islam.


b prayerful n pray against d spirit of anger and the rest.that's the only solution for now



My husband always takes long in washroom use spends a lot of time and I just get worried why he always take so long notbjust washroom takes long showering eating sleeps till very very late always tired and we don't get any family attention we have a two years old toddler and I feel like I'm the only one looking and taking care of her he never spends time with baby also always complaining he is tired he just wants to sit ingwt very upset sometimes with him i get very disappointed and than end of the day we either argue or get in nasty fights pls some advice



Go out for a trip outdoor n stay outside in some hotel or resort.

Send a message in a loving manner explaining your concerns.but never blame.

First appreciate his good points n request him to improve in certain matters like giving timing for fily etc n explain that it will have a good results in future both mentally n also in day to day life. No



My husband is very talkative to his sister in law he laugh with her crack jokes with her on the other hand his own brother don't talk to me much
I feel jealous when ever I saw them together laughing
Even in Islam she is not mehram to my husband
I told my husband many times not to be free with her but he always fight with me
Please suggest me what should I do



advice ur husband calmly dt u always feel jealous wen he talks to ur sister dt
much more dan he does to u .jst give him so words of advice ikewise do same to ur sister dnt b rude to dem n dey wl understand and quit from it



advice ur husband calmly dt u always feel jealous wen he talks to ur sister dt
much more dan he does to u .jst give him so words of advice ikewise do same to ur sister dnt b rude to dem n dey wl understand and quit from it



Assalamo aliekum Aksa,
I have read out your comments and I think that there is not very hard problem which are you facing cause you should just focus on your husband habits like which he has likes and dislikes what he wants and whats are his desires, when you find out these in your husband than you should help him to achieve them take care his feelings. show interest in his personality ignore his some and small mistake provide positive response on his activities. Just keep smile on your face and show friendship behavior with him support him all small and big problems. just spent some extra time with him. Once his start taking interest in you than he will ignore time speding with her and will spend time with you and inshallah you will finally come out from Jealousy feeling. don't trying to teach him but trying to love him and understand him. I am also praying Allah SWT help you. Live Positive live with happy live.
Allah blesses your family Life Ameen


Jaipur Rajasthan India

Hello I have two questions and would extremely appreciate if they are answered comprehensively and with relevant sources.

- In Islam it is said that Men should treat and respect Women. However, it is also mentioned that Men can hit women but off course not physical abuse or serious in nature. It is just to bring them under control and if nothing works then a divorce can take place. My question is, if a Man is abusive, addict and even treats the wife violently or is bad as a character then what Quran and Islam tells about him and what is the punishment ?

- My second and last questions is, Men and Women are treated equally but in terms of asset why there is no equality among men and women ? Why men are given majority of the asset whereas women receives a small percentage of it ?





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