My encounters as a covered Muslim sister

I was born and raised in this country. I am proud to be an American for the reason that I feel we are a blessed people even in the poorest communities compared to some of the places I have been blessed to travel to by the Grace of Allah.

However, with our modern lifestyle and civilized society as we call it, I am still amazed at the degree of ignorance that plagues our people. We have all types of technology at our fingertips and yet some of us still live in darkness.

Since 911, I have had experienced a few incidents of discrimination but they have not shaken my faith. Instead, they have made me more determined than ever. It reminds me of what Allah says in the Quran: "You think that a thing is bad for you but in it there is a degree of good Allah knows and you do not know".

While shopping in the Wal-Mart near my mother's home in the community where I was raised, I and my daughter encountered a very evil man. While going down the aisle of the store and talking amongst ourselves, a man while passing us turned to my daughter and said, " I hope you burn in Hell". I must confess that I became angry(may Allah forgive me) and I turned to the man and I replied, "Who do you think you are? How dare you talk to my daughter in that tone? You have a right to feel any way you wish but you do not have the right to talk to my child that way. Do you understand me?"

I believe that I shocked him with my clear, American English accent. However, his arrogance would not lead him to apologize. Instead, he kept talking and I replied "whatever, just do not address my daughter" and turned and retrieved the item that I was shopping for.

My daughter was so upset. I told her you have to overlook stupid people. Unfortunately, we live in the South, and some people still feel they have a right to say and do as they wish.

After getting the item, my daughter and I went to the front to check out, we got in the line. The dumb man was ahead of us by one customer. He just gazed at us with hate in his eyes and we acted like he was not there. When my daughter recognized him, she said 'mom there he is again.' I told her to just ignore him, he can't help his ignorance. He became angry and began to yell at us again. He said, "you sand niggers have no right to be in our great country, we fought for you, etc." I must say that I am a very outspoken person, always have been, and I don't take abuse from anyone. I guess it is because I am black and I grew up during a time when I saw my people oppressed in this country and I just get angry at oppressive people. I know I have to practice more patience in this issue.

I replied "You see that's what I mean. See how ignorant you are. In the first place, I am not a nigger. In the second place, I am not a foreign citizen. I was born and raised right here. You did not serve anything for me for I am also an honorably discharged veteran of seven years. Did you not learn anything from 911 they have only talked about Islam constantly since? There have been countless programs about it. There was even a program at the university. Where have you been? Do you know that most of the Muslims in this country are African-American, so when you see one just don't assume that they are foreign or for that matter that they do not speak and understand English. By the way, who gives you the right to tell me or any person what we should or should not do or be?"

He was so outraged at this point because the people were looking at him and laughing and saying, "Oh man, be quiet." He replied again that the Constitution gives him the right. I replied that he has rights as long as they do not infringe upon the right of others. My beef is not your rights are how you express them for I do not care, however I do have a problem with a grown man saying something to any child be it mine or whom ever. I feel if you have a problem you need to address it to me. He said xxxx I am talking you, you xxxxx by this time the manger came over and ask what was going on and I told her and she requested security and ask the man to leave. Before he could leave however he decided to see how brave I was with a threat of physical. I looked him square in the face and said By Allah I do not want to hurt you but if you think I will stand here and let you attack me or my daughter you are sadly mistaken, I will fight you to the death for my child do you hear me", the manager told him you need to leave we will not put up with this and this lady is not playing Mr. He said we will see. Feeling that the man was going to do something to us I purchased a carving set.

The officer came over and got a report of what happened and a description of the man, whom I was able to give details down to his brith mark on his neck. The Officer assured me that he or Wal-Mart would not tolerate such behavior and gave me an escort to the parking lot. I told the Officer that I appreciated his help and that the man had threaten me and my daughter and that if attacked I would defend myself, the Officer stated stated he understood. He replied that if he tried anything tonite that he would go to jail. He comforted my daughter whom was crying along with others that were in the store and said that they were ashamed of the man's conduct and apologized for his behavior.

I pray to Allah to give me more tolerance on this issue its just so hard to ignore some of the things sometimes. I guess that I am tired of all of this nonsense. I will try to work on sabr on these matters. However I have found that they are quite supprised when you speak english and relate truth along with history to them. It has not spoiled my feeling toward people that have a natural curiosity and those that long to understand, it is my mission to spread the truth.

Again thank you for your support and continue to give us good advice on these issues at this most critical time of trials. May Allah reward you with Paradise. Amen.

Photo Attribution:  Ed Yourdon - http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Arabische_vrouw_loopt_op_straat_in_Ca%C3%AFro,_-27_december_2008_a.jpg

Comments

I wish I had your braveness. I praise you with all my heart. May Allah be with all of us.

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Virgina

You handled the situation well. Very brave. I am proud of your courage as a black covered sister in America.

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Ohio

The handled the situation well. Very brave.

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Ohio

DEAR sISTER hAJAR, Assalam Alaikum, Wallahi you did right to give him a piece of your mind, otherwise if you had shun away and showed any sign of fear then he would, I'm sure have bullied/your daughter more. I'm an frican Muslim by birth and have my two daughters living in Washington, one is married to an American Muslim (Black) and the other one is at the University, during my visit to USA last year I came to know what descrimination means apart from religion also colour etc. This is a very big ignorance of most of the Americans only if they could read Quran and see that GOD has said - I created you differently, colour wise, nation waise etc. so that you should know and understand each other, BUT not for descrimination purposes. The best person amongst u is that one who OBEYS GOD's command in doing good things and obstaning from the bad one. But Alas! they think that they are the best and they know everyting so they are the biggest. So sister Hajar keep fighting and teaching those who need to know, especially the next of kin, children and friends.MAY GOD BLESS U AND YOUR DAUGHTERWABILLAHI TAWFIQ

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ZANZIBAR, TANZANIA

As Salaamu Alaikum Sistah Hajar it is truly unfortunate that you and your daughter had to experience this kind of hatred and ignorance from this man. Your strength shone bright and you handled yourself in a most respectful manner.I am a African-American, I reside in Northern California, fortunately for me I have not encountered this type of ignorance. I have only gotten stares and evil looks. As long as they do not physically attack me -- I am okay. But if it happens I will do what I have to do in order to defend myself.I pray for your continued strength and that you and your family will be alright. Take care of yourself and family. May Allah guide and protect you from the insanity & ignorance of individual(s) that you encounter also others who may think and feel like him. I feel it was a smart move on your part to purchase the carving set, never ever under estimate others like that ignorant man. In this day and time you must always be ready to defend yourself and your family.

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California

As Salaamu Alaikum Sistah Hajar it is truly unfortunate that you and your daughter had to experience this kind of hatred and ignorance from this man. Your strength shone bright and you handled yourself in a most respectful manner.I am a African-American, I reside in Northern California, fortunately for me I have not encountered this type of ignorance. I have only gotten stares and evil looks. As long as they do not physically attack me -- I am okay.I pray for your continued strength and that you and your family will be alright. Take care of yourself and family. May Allah guide and protect you from the insanity and ignorance of individual that you encounter and others who think and feel like him. I feel it was a smart move to purchase the carving set, never ever under estimate others like that man.

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California

SALAM ALEIKUM SISTER HAJAR WALLAHI YOU ARE AN AMAZING WOMAN VERY STRONG INDEED ALHAMDULILAH IM AN ITALIAN AMERICAN MUSLIM FEMALE AND I KNOW I WOULD HAVE ACTED THE SAME WAY SISTER ACTUALLY A WOMAN APPROACHED ME IN RITE AID HERE IN JERSEY CITY AND SHE TOLD ME WHAT IS THAT THING ON UR HEAD I SAID ITS A HIJAB SHE SAID RU MUSLIM I SAID YES SHE SAID YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF URSELF I SAID WHY? IM PERFECTLY HAPPY AND PROUD TO BE MUSLIM SHE SAID JESUS CHRIST IS CRYING FOR YOU THEN I TURNED TO HER AND SAID NO JESUS CHRIST IS CRYING FOR YOU BECAUSE I WAS CHRISTIAN FOR 43 YRS BEFORE BECOMING MUSLIM AND I DO KNOW THAT IN CHRISTIANITY AS ALSO IN ISLAM YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO RESPECT PPL OF OTHER FAITHS WELL SHE JUST STOOD THERE WITH HER MOUTH HAGING OPEN AND I LEFT THE STORE WITH A SMILE ON MY FACE I TOLD HER GOD BLESS YOU AND SHE GOT REALLY MAD AND I SAID HAVE A NICE DAY AND SHE TOLD ME YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE A NICE DAY IF YOU ARE MUSLIM AND I SAID TO HER WHO DIED AND LEFT YOU MY BOSS? I ONLY FEAR ALLAH (SWT) MAY ALLAH BLESS YOUR STRENGTH ALWAYS SISTER HAJAR I LOVE YOUR POWER ALHAMDULILAH MASHA ALLAH TO YOU YOUR DAUGHTER AND ALL OF YOUR FAMILY INSHA ALLAH SALAM ALEIKUM NOOR HASSAN JERSEY CITY NJ USERCLD3891@AOL.COM PLS FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME AT ANY TIME SISTER

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NEW JERSEY

Allahu Akbar! Great Job sister!! Just wanted to know if I can spread this story to other people or is it copy righted by Soundvision?

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canada

Dear sister in islam i think you did a very brave thing and i don't think you should regret any action you took against him because sometimes you have to say something to these people for them to know that they are the ignorant ones and not us may Allah continue to guide you aright and grant you and your family paradise amin.

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nigeria

Asalaam AlaikamSister Hajar you are of such great inspiration and are, without a singular doubt, a star role model for many Muslim Sisters... Alhumdulillah, Your daughter is very lucky to have such a strong-willed mum who cannot be deterred so easily! Mashallah, the courage you have shown will surely pose as encouragement to many others! Jazakallahkhair for sharing that experience with us - It was a terrible one but one you shone through with such beautiful strength! May Allah always protect us all and give us such amazing determination to satnd up for ourselves! Ameen.

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UK

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