My encounters as a covered Muslim sister

I was born and raised in this country. I am proud to be an American for the reason that I feel we are a blessed people even in the poorest communities compared to some of the places I have been blessed to travel to by the Grace of Allah.

However, with our modern lifestyle and civilized society as we call it, I am still amazed at the degree of ignorance that plagues our people. We have all types of technology at our fingertips and yet some of us still live in darkness.

Since 911, I have had experienced a few incidents of discrimination but they have not shaken my faith. Instead, they have made me more determined than ever. It reminds me of what Allah says in the Quran: "You think that a thing is bad for you but in it there is a degree of good Allah knows and you do not know".

While shopping in the Wal-Mart near my mother's home in the community where I was raised, I and my daughter encountered a very evil man. While going down the aisle of the store and talking amongst ourselves, a man while passing us turned to my daughter and said, " I hope you burn in Hell". I must confess that I became angry(may Allah forgive me) and I turned to the man and I replied, "Who do you think you are? How dare you talk to my daughter in that tone? You have a right to feel any way you wish but you do not have the right to talk to my child that way. Do you understand me?"

I believe that I shocked him with my clear, American English accent. However, his arrogance would not lead him to apologize. Instead, he kept talking and I replied "whatever, just do not address my daughter" and turned and retrieved the item that I was shopping for.

My daughter was so upset. I told her you have to overlook stupid people. Unfortunately, we live in the South, and some people still feel they have a right to say and do as they wish.

After getting the item, my daughter and I went to the front to check out, we got in the line. The dumb man was ahead of us by one customer. He just gazed at us with hate in his eyes and we acted like he was not there. When my daughter recognized him, she said 'mom there he is again.' I told her to just ignore him, he can't help his ignorance. He became angry and began to yell at us again. He said, "you sand niggers have no right to be in our great country, we fought for you, etc." I must say that I am a very outspoken person, always have been, and I don't take abuse from anyone. I guess it is because I am black and I grew up during a time when I saw my people oppressed in this country and I just get angry at oppressive people. I know I have to practice more patience in this issue.

I replied "You see that's what I mean. See how ignorant you are. In the first place, I am not a nigger. In the second place, I am not a foreign citizen. I was born and raised right here. You did not serve anything for me for I am also an honorably discharged veteran of seven years. Did you not learn anything from 911 they have only talked about Islam constantly since? There have been countless programs about it. There was even a program at the university. Where have you been? Do you know that most of the Muslims in this country are African-American, so when you see one just don't assume that they are foreign or for that matter that they do not speak and understand English. By the way, who gives you the right to tell me or any person what we should or should not do or be?"

He was so outraged at this point because the people were looking at him and laughing and saying, "Oh man, be quiet." He replied again that the Constitution gives him the right. I replied that he has rights as long as they do not infringe upon the right of others. My beef is not your rights are how you express them for I do not care, however I do have a problem with a grown man saying something to any child be it mine or whom ever. I feel if you have a problem you need to address it to me. He said xxxx I am talking you, you xxxxx by this time the manger came over and ask what was going on and I told her and she requested security and ask the man to leave. Before he could leave however he decided to see how brave I was with a threat of physical. I looked him square in the face and said By Allah I do not want to hurt you but if you think I will stand here and let you attack me or my daughter you are sadly mistaken, I will fight you to the death for my child do you hear me", the manager told him you need to leave we will not put up with this and this lady is not playing Mr. He said we will see. Feeling that the man was going to do something to us I purchased a carving set.

The officer came over and got a report of what happened and a description of the man, whom I was able to give details down to his brith mark on his neck. The Officer assured me that he or Wal-Mart would not tolerate such behavior and gave me an escort to the parking lot. I told the Officer that I appreciated his help and that the man had threaten me and my daughter and that if attacked I would defend myself, the Officer stated stated he understood. He replied that if he tried anything tonite that he would go to jail. He comforted my daughter whom was crying along with others that were in the store and said that they were ashamed of the man's conduct and apologized for his behavior.

I pray to Allah to give me more tolerance on this issue its just so hard to ignore some of the things sometimes. I guess that I am tired of all of this nonsense. I will try to work on sabr on these matters. However I have found that they are quite supprised when you speak english and relate truth along with history to them. It has not spoiled my feeling toward people that have a natural curiosity and those that long to understand, it is my mission to spread the truth.

Again thank you for your support and continue to give us good advice on these issues at this most critical time of trials. May Allah reward you with Paradise. Amen.

Photo Attribution:  Ed Yourdon - http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Arabische_vrouw_loopt_op_straat_in_Ca%C3%AFro,_-27_december_2008_a.jpg

Comments

Subhanalla....you really stood up... sometimes this happens a lot to young girls and wmoen who were a hijab.. We know that we will not stop wearing a hijab just because someone will tease us. I pray for all my sisters and myself and telling Allah to increase our patience and pray to him to help us..Allah can only help us.. he himself....My Salam

Location

Bronx, New York

Assaluma alikum sis, marshalah u stood up 2 sum 1 i think its also kind of more hard coz of 9/11 but in britain every1s duin da same, inshallah they ll b more ppl like u i hope i can do that 2!they have also bin sum very horrible racist attacks 2 muslim girls who wear hijabs, those racist ppl pull them off and the muslim sisters get also attacked which iz horrible!inshallah every1 can ave courage like u.

Location

England

More power to u, sis!!! Mashallah, your faith is strong and this is all that matters in these trying times. If only I had that kind of courage! I pray that Allah increases the patience u desire and i pray that he increases the courage that I desire.

Location

Wash. D.C.

Asslamu alaikum sister, Masha Allah, you stood up to that man and rightly so, and by hearing about your experience, it lends me strength to stand up to anything I may confront. I have recently heard more and more incidents of sisters being confronted with ignorant people, and unfortunately, the media and their attitude toward muslims encourages these petty and hateful individuals to come out and display their true colors. I pray for every muslim, myself included, that if confronted with such incidents, that we handle ourselves with dignity and patience toward these people, and I always tell myself, remember what prophet Mohammed, peace be upon him, endured, and how he handled himself, and I pray that Allah, subhanahu wa talla, gives us the strength to do the same, insha Allah.

Location

New Jersey

This is just one more in a score of discriminatory acts and threats aimed at Muslims, since 9/11. That is why I have tried to re-activate the Islamic Anti-Defamation Council; to deal with hate crimes and acts of prejudice and discrimination against Muslims. To this sister I say : ALLAHU AKBAR! You are a good and true Muslim and you deserve ALLAH's mercy and blessings. You did the right thing.

Location

New York City

MASHALLAH SISTER YOU REALLY STOOD UP THE RIGHT WAY, I THINK IF IT WAS ME AND THAT MAN SAID SOMETHING LIKE THAT TO MY KID YA ALLAH SOMEONE HAD TO SAVE THAT GUY FROM ME!!!!

Location

MIAMI ,FL

good for you! I wish I had your courage.... What a fabulous example you've been for your daughter - and for all of us.

Location

california

As salaam alaikum sister. Mashallah,I am very glad you told this man off and stood your ground. Insha'allah he will go home and realize how utterly foolish he sounded. I am also in the South and I know about the ignorance of people down here when it comes to Islam and Muslims.

Location

North Miami

As Salaamu alaikumSister Alhamdulillah you are very brave to do what you. I was approached with a very similiar situation (walmart and a very nasty man, plus at night) because I am down south also. I did not react the way you did because I'm not as bold. Alot of people felt I should have told the man off. But I felt it was better for me to ignore him and let him drown in his ignorance. Plus I was mostly in shock because I grew up in the North and did not experience this type a thing to much as a child. Now as a young adult if and when something happens like that to me I feel shock. So after that happened to me I decided if I'm going to go out at night I'm going with my very big husband (besides women shouldn't go outside at night alone). But anyways I hope I can deal with any other situations like that as well as you did.

Location

NC

Subhanallah! You go girl !! I'm glad some ppl know how to stick up for themselves. Sadly we shouldn't be having these problems. But with the ALLAH's (SWT) help we ( more like u) are able to over come some ppls ignorance.

Location

NY

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