One in four women will experience domestic violence

One in four women will experience domestic violence

Muslim communities are not Immune to this disease

"I recommend that you treat women with goodness. The best of you are those who treat their wives the best."
— Prophet Muhammad

It is often assumed that domestic violence is permissible in Islam. While it may be a problem in the Muslim community as much as it is in other faiths, it is by no means allowed in Islam. In fact, the Prophet Muhammad said, “Do not beat the female servants of Allah.” This includes not just wives, but all women—daughters, sisters, etc.

The Prophet also said, when asked about the obligations of a husband toward his wife: “Feed her when you eat, and provide her clothing when you provide yourself. Neither hit her on the face nor use impolite language when addressing her.”

In citing these examples, we do not forget that domestic violence can happen to men as well as women.

And although Islam does not condone abuse, particularly between a husband and wife, it does not erase the fact that it can exist in our communities, hidden behind closed doors.

The Causes of Domestic Violence in Our Communities

The horrors of domestic violence occur in the Muslim community due to the same reasons they occur anywhere:

  • socio-economic factors
  • jealousy and unstable rage
  • a cycle of abuse in the family
  • mental illness (studies revealed a high rate of psychopathy among abusers)
  • social learning

The State of Domestic Violence in Our Communities

According to a Feb. 2009 survey conducted by Sound Vision, surveying more than 200 individuals across North America, about 7 in 10 people know someone who has experienced some degree of domestic violence.

Other important statistics include:

  • 41 percent of almost 200 Muslims experienced domestic violence (either verbal, emotional, physical and sexual abuse), according to a Peaceful Families Project 207 survey.
  • One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.
  • 85 percent of domestic violence victims are women. Women between 20-24 years old are at the greatest risk of nonfatal domestic abuse. (NCADV)
  • Domestic violence is one of the most underreported crimes; only one-quarter of all physical assaults, one-fifth of all rapes, and one-half of all stalkings perpetuated against females by intimate partners are reported to the police.
  • According to the Sound Vision survey, 90 percent of men said they were never afraid of their spouse; only 50 percent of women indicated the same.
  • According to the Centers for Disease Control, domestic violence is a public health problem that affects more than 32 million Americans.

Domestic violence—whether it’s verbal, physical, emotional, economic, or intimidation—cannot be condoned or accepted in our neighborhoods. It’s up to family and friends to help those in abusive relationships to get out safely, and it’s up to the victim to stop the cycle.

Muslims cannot turn a blind eye to domestic violence in our communities. Islam does not condone it, and neither should we.

Where to turn:
The National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1.800.799.7233


The modern times have given rise to new kind of domestic violence. That violence is when wives are the ones initiating, and constantly carrying out the violence. That violence is in form of:
1. wife hitting husband on things that she could not tolerate of husband.
2. Cursing, and doing verbal abuse of such intense levels that a normal human being's heart would tremble.
3. Instigating violence by saying hateful words to husband's parents and family on minor household issues.

This is the new wave of violence that you didn't mention in your article. The reason husband stays quite and tolerates such behavior is because, he knows that if he retaliates wife will be harmed and she can get help from police and get him jailed.

The women of today are no nuns anymore. They are materialistic and hateful towards their husbands and kids. They create problem on minor issues.

You should be ashamed of yourself ignoring the other side of domestic violence, and making this article sound like it is always husband who is to blame.

People like you should stop writing articles like these. I was very disappointed to read one sided point of view of this article.


Richmond, VA

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