The state of sex education in Muslim schools
Islamic schools and sex education may seem like a contradiction for some. After all, don't parents send their kids to these schools to protect them from sex?
Not so for Dalya Aglan. The 16-year-old, in the course of a biology class, was given the low down by her biology teacher on pregnancy, menstruation, and sexual maturation amongst adolescents at her Muslim school in Montreal, Canada.
She talked about it Islamically, says Aglan about the approach her Muslim teacher used. She talked about what was Halal, Haram and Sunnah. It's not like she was doing anything wrong. She was teaching us something we need to know.
The class was mixed (boys and girls) but the question and and answer session was separate. Students were asked if they were uncomfortable. They all said no. The teacher also got the students' parents to sign permission slips for this.
There was so much stuff we didn't know we could do like you can't have sex while the woman has her period, none of us knew that, says Aglan matter-of-factly.
Such candor, though, is not something expressed in most Islamic schools in North America.
In most of the Islamic schools, they avoid to deal with these issues, says Abdalla Idris Ali, a member of the Islamic Society of North America's Majlis Shura. He is also the former principal of an Islamic school in Mississauga, Ontario in Canada.
Why sex is taboo in Islamic schools
Apart from the general embarrassment towards openly discussing sexual matters in most Muslim cultures, part of the reason also, it seems, is because parents assume Islamic schools are an environment where their kids don't have to talk about this issue. This is not the case.
We think if we've brought them into the Islamic school atmosphere that we will somehow protecting them and isolating them from mainstream society, and that is not the case, notes Winnipeg, Canada-based social worker Shahina Siddiqui. She points to television, magazines, billboards, and even Muslim friends with lower standards of morality who can still influence kids even if they attend an Islamic school.
This society is immersed in sexuality, she says, and adds that children still learn and absorb information outside of school.
In this scenario, I would rather that we teach our children [sex education] with Islamic values, she tells Sound Vision.
Lack of proper curriculum
While public schools across the United States, for example, have an established curriculum for sex education, in the context of a Family Life Education program, there is nothing similar for Muslim schools.
Right now we don't have a curriculum for that and we should have an Islamic perspective, says Siddiqui. It can take any form, from starting with Tahara all the way to upper grades, but it should be customized and standardized for Muslims just to maintain the Adab (etiquette), to make sure what is being taught is appropriate, to maintain quality of education.
But Idris Ali disagrees with making sex education a topic or a course in itself. He says it should come in what we call a normal progression. In other words, it should come in the context of things like for example, explaining Ghusl and mentioning when it is necessary (for instance, after sexual intercourse, and after menstruation).
There is a wider context where these things will come, so they don't come by themselves, he says.
Make it age-appropriate
The biggest fear we have is that our children will be exposed to these things before they are ready, says Siddiqui.
Idris Ali suggests the topic in Islamic schools be introduced starting grade four in the context of hygiene. These classes should be separate for boys and girls if the classes are generally mixed.
I don't think a single Muslim parent would have a problem with introducing Tahara (personal hygiene), says Siddiqui. During this discussion, menstruation for girls can be discussed and the appropriate method of cleaning, in this case Ghusl, when a period is over.
She recommends the following age-topic breakdown:
1. starting discussions on Tahara in Islamic schools in grade six or seven.
Siddiqui points out that children who attend Islamic schools tend to know less about sex than their public school counterparts, which is why the topics discussed at the ages she has suggested may seem behind what kids in public schools already know.
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