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Parenting
Memo From
A Child To Parents
1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I'm only testing you.
2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it, it makes me feel secure.
3. Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.
4. Don't make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly "big".
5. Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.
6. Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
7. Don't protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes.
8. Don't be too upset when I say "I hate you". Sometimes it isn't you I hate but your power to thwart me.
9. Don't take too much notice of my small ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I need.
10. Don't nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
11. Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. That is why I am not always accurate.
12. Don't put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
13. Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
14. Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
15. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.
16. Don't ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you.
17. Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get along without it, so please put up with it.
18. Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please do try.
19. Don't forget that I don't thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I don't need to tell you, do I?
20. Please keep yourself fit and healthy. I need you.
(Reprinted with permission from The Message International, June 1991, p. 40)
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zuhur, Rochester,MN -
wrote on 12/26/2005 12:38:28 AM
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Comment: Assalamu 'Alaykum
Masha Allah, this was beautiful. I want to use this More. Insha Allah It'll help me to a good mother one day. We should all follow this memo because it's 100% true. Jazakumullahi Khayran
Assalamu 'Alaykum
danyal , chicago -
wrote on 11/23/2005 8:29:26 PM
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Comment: may allah bless our children, and make them from the saliheen. This was a very good article and I will use it as my new born baby grow. Jazakom Allah Khair
HANI, -
wrote on 8/6/2005 4:38:45 AM
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Comment: Very good article masha'Allah...insha'Allah I'll be saving it for the time when I have children bi'ithnillah
Bilqiis, Abuja,Nigeria -
wrote on 5/10/2005 10:40:46 AM
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Comment: Alhamdulillah, this article has been of trimendous help to me and my children(ages: 1year 6month and 2years 10months). I can relax now and take good care of my children the proper way; the Islamic way.
farah, london -
wrote on 4/15/2005 7:24:06 AM
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Comment: i will be printing this out to keep close by to remind me- all so true!. JZA khair!
Hala, Sydney, Australia -
wrote on 4/10/2005 10:22:14 AM
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Comment: Thank you!Every parent should understand that bring up your child starts from day one, sadly we begin to pay extra attension when they are teenagers which often is too late. This article is great and really hits home!
Siddiqa Sheikh, Reading, England -
wrote on 12/7/2004 5:54:49 PM
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Comment: Masalaah, great article... just wish Allah(SWT) gives me the strength to remember these pointers when I wake up in the morning!!!
zubia veqar, germany -
wrote on 11/7/2004 5:36:28 PM
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Comment: allhamdullilalh!!!this is truly one of the greatest articles that i have ever read. i have a11month old daughter and i am going to pasre this article in my house and alsi forward it to some of my friends,but i wish i you would have given an option to e-mail it.
khudahafiz
Chen Hui Er, singapore -
wrote on 10/29/2004 5:13:09 AM
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Comment: It's v.good for each and every parents that don't know how to educate their child/children (in the correct way) i wish that in the whole world of parents(i know it's inpossible) read this and try to know their child well...
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daud ahmed, spain -
wrote on 7/15/2004 2:00:46 PM
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Comment: Aslamo alaikum. It is very useful for parents and childrens.
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