18 Tips to Simplify Your Spending
By Samana Siddiqui
The simplicity movement has swept across America. People are sick of the rat race-the fast-paced, stressful culture that has developed. They want to kick back, relax and live simpler, much less complicated lives.
Sadly, Muslims are not immune from the rush for the material trappings of modern society. Here are are some tips to help you simplify your life's material side, and see the bigger picture.
Unclutter Your Life: Reclaim Your Mind, Body, and Wallet
People in North America work longer hours than in any other industrialized country. Despite fewer people per household, the size of homes continues to expand rapidly. Advertisements fill our eyes every minute—in schools, bathrooms, on food, on buses and even in the sky. They compel us to consume, consume and consume, regardless of what we own or earn.
What are the consequences of this compulsive consumer lifestyle? Read
A Sample Budget for a Muslim Family
The following budget form is largely based on information from a pre-marriage program developed for married Muslim couples by Muslim counselor Shahina Siddiqui, executive director of the Winnipeg, Canada-based Islamic Social Services Association (ISSA). Read
Domestic Violence Hurts Muslims Too: Stop the Hurt Now
Dr. Aneesah Nadir
to four million women are beaten annually
and every 15 seconds a woman is abused
in her home. One reaction may be, "that's
a tragedy that doesn't effect Muslim families."
But it does.
While research on the prevalence of family violence among Muslims is just beginning, Imams, community leaders and social workers across North America confirm that Muslim women, children and men are being affected by this devastating social problem. Read
Managing Conflict: Dealing with the In-Laws
In-laws are the focus of blame and reproach when there are marital disputes.
But there are ways to maintain a good relationship with them. Here are some tips:
Remember your spouse's parents have known them longer and loved them longer. Never make an issue about "me or them".
Let respective parties settle their own disputes. If your mother-in-law has a problem with her husband, let them deal with it. Don't interfere
Don't tell your spouse how to improve their relationship with their parents.
Expect some adjustment time for parents after marriage to adjust to this new relationship.
Remember that mothers are usually skeptical about daughter-in-laws and fathers about son-in-laws. Read
Tip of the Month:
For Caring Partners
Never go to bed with an unsettled argument; learn to have differences without letting them affect your relationship.
(Source: Blissful Marriage by Drs. Ekram and M. Rida Beshir, p. 273)