Marriage Today
Helping Muslim Marriages Thrive & Grow
March 21, 2012
Marriage Today Team
Editorial Team:
Dr. Aneesah Nadir, MSW
Samana Siddiqui
Taha Ghayyur
Zarinah Nadir


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Hanna El-Amin, Director
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Divine Advice:
Marriage is NOT Simply 'Made in Heaven'!

A happy marriage is not simply 'made in Heaven.' It does not just happen by accident.

You could go into a most beautiful garden and be amazed at the profusion and lushness of the flowers, the neatness of the borders and grasses, the absence of marauding insects and pests -- and you would never for a moment think that this had come about by accident. You would know right away that the garden had been created by a person or a group of people who loved gardening, and no matter what the setbacks, were determined to produce a thing of great beauty and joy.

A marriage is cultivated in the same way! You have to be able to see in your mind's eye the sort of marriage you would like to have when it is finished, and aim towards it. If events turn out slightly differently, it doesn't matter all that much because your masterplan will be there to keep you heading in the right direction.

(Source: The Muslim Marriage Guide by Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood, p. 9)

The Fundamentals of a Fulfilling Marriage


By Shahina Siddiqui

Forbearance: Sabr (patience) is the most useful tool to have in managing a healthy lifestyle. Being patient and forbearing puts us in a proactive frame of mind it brings us closer to Allah through Tawakul and reliance .We develop an inner mechanism that empowers us to handle life's difficult moments. As Allah states in Surah al-Asr: "Surely by time humans are at loss, except those who believe and do righteous deeds and counsel each other to the truth and counsel each other to Sabr' (Quran, chapter 103).

 

License to Wed: Legal Implications of Muslim Marriage in North America
By Dr. Aneesah Nadir and Zarinah Nadir

License to Wed: Legal Implications of Muslim Marriage in North AmericaThe Lady of Justice is blind, but when entering into marriage our eyes should be wide open. In good times and in tough times, legal situations can crop up in our everyday life that can strain even the strongest relationships. But are we prepared to deal with them?

Life happens and we must exercise faith and reliance on Allah. But, it also behooves us to be proactive and arm ourselves with the appropriate education and resources to handle the unexpected to the best of our abilities. Read More >

How Arbitration Can Help Muslim Couples Solve Conflicts
By Sound Vision Staff Writer

How Arbitration Can Help Muslim Couples Solve ConflictsArbitration is a process where either a neutral third party or a panel of three people come to a decision about a given situation (in this conflict in marriage) after studying the facts and arguments presented by all sides.

This decision can be binding or non-binding. A person who decides on an issue is an arbitrator.” Read More >

Muslim Marriage: Spiritual Harmony 
By Wahida Valiante

Muslim Marriage: Spiritual Harmony  The Qur’an describes the family as “an abode of peace,” a system with non- linear dynamics based on the inherent equality of men and women; it states that Allah “Created you of a single soul, put affection and mercy between your hearts.” (Qur'an 3:195).

Tranquility or the “abode of peace” in marital relationships is not based on gender distinction. Rather, it is an outcome of personal ethical behavior where two adults assume full responsibility for their own individual conduct in order to meet the religious obligations of mutual rights and responsibilities. Read More >ss

Managing Conflict Advice of the Month:
Dealing with the In-Laws

Managing Conflict Advice of the Month:In-laws are the focus of blame and reproach when there are marital disputes.

This month, here are some tips to maintain healthy relations with your in-laws:

  • Be forgiving and keep your sense of humor.
  • Remember that nobody can interfere or influence your marriage unless you allow them to.
  • Invite in-laws at least once a month for a meal.
  • Visit them when you can and encourage your spouse to visit their parents and regularly check on them.
  • When parents become dependent on their children, a serious discussion with all parties present should take place. Expectations and requirements of such a living arrangement must be worked out. Read More >

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Caring CouplesTip of the Month:
For Caring Partners

Start a new good deed together. This can range from going to Friday prayers together and teaching at a weekend Islamic school, to taking turns caring for an elderly relative. Choose your deed and watch your blessings and your bonding increase.

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Inspiring Duas for Muslim Families

Memorize these beautiful Duas (supplications), use these in your daily personal prayers and read collectively with your spouse and family:

"Rabbanaa Aatinaa Min Ladunka Rahmah, Wa Hayy' Lanaa Min Amrina Rashadaa"

"Our Lord! bestow on us Mercy from Yourself, and dispose of our affair for us in the right way" (Quran 18:10)

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