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HennaGirl19, Cali. - wrote on 3/28/2011 9:07:55 PM
Comment:I agree with Brother Wharnsby. He makes alot of sense on why you should NOT attend a prom. And by the way, every time I ask an adult why they drink they just pat me on the head and say, "You'll understand when you're an adult." Well personally, I don't think it has anything to do with age at all. If it's cause it's cool, it's not. It smells and, reportedly, tastes TERRIBLE! Not only that, but you get horrible hangovers. How can something that terrible be COOL? Inshaallah, Allah will guide those souls to Islam someday.
Yusuf, Calgary - wrote on 6/2/2010 12:55:43 PM
Comment:I cannot see how getting drunk, possible getting yourself into an accident, and waking up with a terrible headache can be fun. I believe that the interpretation of fun has been lost in our time. Amazing article Mr. hornsby, thankyou for demonstrating the morals of those that are somewhat lost.
D.Wharnsby, Abbottabad - wrote on 5/1/2010 9:41:39 AM
Comment:...apologies again, that's "Mr. Clare's" post I was referencing.
D.Wharnsby, Abbottabad - wrote on 5/1/2010 3:52:53 AM
This article was written many years ago. Though I still stand by some of what I wrote regarding the importance of individuals taking responsibility for their actions, avoiding wastefulness and assessing what it truly means to be “adult” - I must agree with the root of Ms. Claire’s January 28, 2004 post.
The tone of my 2001 article was indeed sanctimonious. In fact - I would go further and say it was down-right judgmental, arrogant and self-righteous.
My decision (as a young man) to avoid the senior prom was my right and my choice... just as the decisions many of my high-school peers made to attend the event was “their right” and “their choice”. Neither of us hurt each other at the time by our choices.
However, my choice - many years later - to publicly write about my high school senior prom in a manner which judged the actions and intentions of others, was a wrong choice that slandered my old high school peers. I may not have been intoxicated with wine at my high school prom in 1990, but I was inebriated with spiritual pride and dogmatic vigor when I wrote about the prom 11 years later. In my mind now, another decade since the article was published - I like to hope I have found some degree of spiritual sobriety.
Shortly after seeing the article on-line in 2002, I re-wrote the piece and asked that it be re-published, which never happened unfortunately. Since that time, it’s presence on line in various circles, has been a constant reminder to me of my own weaknesses as a writer and as a human being who claims to respect the individual spiritual and life journeys of others.
All I may offer now, these many years later, is this little public apology for my arrogance at the time I strung this article together.
To those who may have found the article to their liking - I’m glad. Some of you, no doubt, may have used the article to try and explain to your own children why you would rather not have them attend a social event like the high school prom. Some of you may have used the article to validate your own reasons for boycotting your high school prom. However, I must state that: although we may personally not understand or appreciate some cultural events that others hold dear, we must be careful that our opinions about them are not thrown (as in my article) like self-reighteous arrows.
“To you your accountability for the way you choose to live, and to me my accountability to the way I choose to live.” - Qur’an.
Perhaps one important part of adulthood is growing to recognize our weaknesses and accept responsibility for the harms we have caused to others. If it is, I’d like to hope I have indeed “grown up a little” over the years, or at least gained a little wisdom.
Sidra, Karachi - wrote on 10/20/2009 10:06:12 AM
Comment:@ Gerald Clare
"provided dat no one is hurt"
hurting someone or urself doesn't necessarily show up at da instant... it might take dayx, months, years or whole life to realize how much u've hurt others and/ or ur ownself.
dre is a tym for everything... a child is irresponsible and it may even suit him... but growing up is different. its not dat it takes alot of effort..its dat u don't want to make an effort. when u can spend night and day in front of mirror and hours thinking about how pretty I can look, how can I attract others doesn't dat require any energy?
its not that I am like a totally serious person or anything.. a person should be well balanced wid da right proportions.. geting away wid extravagant dresses, rides might come for u in da proportions but it does not for zillions of people homeless, widout food, shelter etc. and mind dat yes ur hurting dem..
P.S wuzn't to dsgrace ur opinion, everyone has a right to speak, just wanted to speak my heart out.
Asmaa, Pakisan - wrote on 12/24/2004 11:50:59 PM
Comment:Assalam-u-alaikum to all my brothers and sisters in Islam. It was a wonderful experience to visit your site. May Allah help you 'grow'. I've been listening to brother Dawud for a long time. Love Allah, Road to Madina, Prophets hands; I like all of these.His article was really fascinating. May Allah strenghthen our Iman and make us realize our duties and responsibilities in this world.
Naima, Ottawa - wrote on 3/18/2004 3:06:03 PM
Masha'allah, this article was very inspiring. Although many students may feel as if prom night is just a night of fun and getting together with friends - alcohol free and problem free- this isn't always the case. There are so many other ways to celebrate your completion of high school and I strongly believe that prom night is not the best solution. I have actually thought about this, and with only a few months untill my prom night, I have decided to not attend. Allahdullilah, here in ottawa, the MYO has organized a Halal graduation Dinner instead...Inshallah Allah will help all of us to make the right decisions...
Salamu Alaikum ~ Peace Be with You~
wajida, - wrote on 3/8/2004 7:55:19 AM
Comment:I read this article quite few times and i think it's really great. it makes so much sense .
Gerald Clare, San Luis Obispo, California - wrote on 1/28/2004 6:22:44 PM
Comment:Sanctimonious is the word that comes to mind reading your article and many of the responses to it from similarly narrow-minded prudes. While drunken carousing is not attractive when viewed from the vantage of sobriety, it is a lot of fun and celebrating life with abandon and enthusiasm, provided no one is hurt, seems to me a perfectly acceptable thing on occasion.
And all the talk of Allah so reminds me of the Spanish Inquisition when the christians had their orgy of "in gods name" we judge and punish.
Good luck growing up and gaining a sense of proportion.
Sumayyah Nishi, London - wrote on 11/24/2003 5:40:58 AM
Comment:Asalumu alaikum, may Allah (swt) bless you for your wonderful effort, keep it up, ur article is very inspireable, jazakAllahu khairun for teaching all this. I wud lik to say that all though i was born as a muslim, i only practising when i heard br. Dawud beautiful/powerful songs which touch my heart and made me realise abt Allah's deen. May Allah (swt) always bless you and show his endless blessings on you. Wasalumu alaikum wa rahmat ullahi wa barakatu.
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